Imagine two kids fighting for a toy. Shouting and smashing each other as if it’s the last toys on earth. To stop the fight, we as elders come in between and ask one kid to make a sacrifice or if I put it in better words, one of them is asked to LET IT GO. This subtle art of “let it go” teaches them the social skills they will need as adults such as negotiating, cooperating, sharing, and respecting other people’s feelings or points of view. But is it a cakewalk to “let it go”? The answer is a big NO. But is it important or worth it? The answer is a definite YES.
As a kid, nearly nobody understands it. But gradually as we grow old, we practice this art, devoid of colours, so many times it seems easy. But is it true? That is what you will discover as you read further.
As the journey of “let it go” begins we leave a lot of things, which seem imperative at a point of time. We make plans that how perfect life would be with all those things or people being there with us. But then life hits us hard, and we have to leave behind a few or maybe all of them. Initially, we retaliate, we fight, we shout and smash (not literally) yet, finally we “let it go”. Unexpectedly, the kid comes out. I believe you will agree, that inside all of us we have the kid, who doesn’t want to give up and let it go. It awakes every time we come across situations of leaving things. It’s just that the kid becomes a little mature with time and might take a little less time to “let it go”. But it is there no matter how old and unprejudiced we become. It’s difficult to practice this art because it’s the subject of our life school, which everyone hates. But hey, it’s a compulsory one so we can’t break free.
The kid inside me feels the same pain when she has to leave something or somebody. It’s just that the intensity of the pain is different for distinct things. Sometimes it’s very mild, but the other times it excruciating. Usually, I try to be generous enough to help people and let them have whatever they want, but sometimes the kid inside runs out of generosity. It becomes draining to let it go. But here comes the famous platitude, “Change is the only constant” no matter whether or not you want it. ‘Change’-It’s that one size, which fits all with time (no matter if you wear small, medium, large, or something else).
When we think deeply, we understand that it’s not the toy that the kid can’t let go, it’s the change in his or her ideal world, because of the absence of that toy, which is difficult to accept. We deal with something similar when we have to let things or people go. At that very moment, it hurts and we feel helpless to give up on the memories we have created or would create, but with time we realize that it’s important for us. We need to forgive, grow, and learn.
Letting things go makes us subtle in the way we deal with the general affairs of life. It brings a kind of peace that helps you to go on with life and explore. If you look back in life, you will ponder how all the dots connect to make the beautiful picture of the life you have today. How things turned out well even though initially it seemed like climbing a mountain. But even trekking is fun if you focus on the next step instead of looking at the destination. It is difficult to disassociate what you feel emotionally with what makes sense to do logically. However, if you commit to putting your energies in the right direction by acknowledging what hurt or offended you, looking on a broader perspective on what took place, working through your emotions and pledging towards moving on you will heal and get what you deserve and that is health, happiness, peace, spirituality and emotional satisfaction.
We are in an age of AI and IOT, but still, we are human and take time to adapt. Don’t expect too much too soon and lose it. Remember, being human makes you special. Give time and believe in the subtle art of “let it go”.
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