Love is so small as a word yet so intricate to describe. Catching hold of the title, you might think the article is about some relationship between a girl and a boy. Congratulations, you are right on your part. But it’s a little more than that. The question is, can we only have LOVE AT FIRST SIGHT with a boy or a girl. Don’t you feel when a new-born sees his or her mother for the first time, something similar happens? All the pet lovers out there might experience it daily; an unforeseen ingress of love for animals you haven’t seen before. So why attach the phrase to something or somebody particular. Or maybe that is how society has made us think so far.
The question is if this first site love is worth it? I see eye to eye with you all, who feel that everyone has an original experience and henceforth, a Sui generis emotion attached to it whether sweet or sour. For some that love might be your life now, whereas some might still struggle to get it out of their lives. Like I mentioned- Sui generis individuals.
I believe no matter what our emotion is, what most of us will agree with is that the first sight love won’t sustain if we don’t put in efforts, and by efforts I mean the change, sacrifices, and compromises, which should be made by both the souls involved. And the same applies to any relationship you are in, whether with an animate or inanimate thing. No wonder a seed has a life inside it, but it won’t come into existence unless we give it the required love, care, and time in the form of water, manure, and sunlight. So, love isn’t the only thing we need to sustain a relationship.
Most of you might not agree with me over this. I understand how our culture, history, movies, and so-called daily soaps idealize love so much that it seems like an ultimate solution for all our miseries and struggles. And because we adore it so much, we overestimate it. It makes us do all the things we had never thought about or expected to do. But hey, just because we did something that we never expect out of ourselves doesn’t make us bad; instead, it helps us to explore a hidden facet of our personality, makes us more receptive and better human beings.
When we believe that “all we need is love”, probably we are giving a cold shoulder to some fundamental values such as respect, humility, fidelity, commitment, and obedience towards the people we care about and most importantly who care about us. Above all, if love can decode everything, why do we have to worry about these so-called values. They exist for a purpose and it’s YOU. Think about how people offer their seats to ladies and old people in public transport. Are they in love with everyone around? You all know the answer. People do it out of those fundamental values I mentioned before.
I am not against love or asking you to stop experiencing it. All I want you to understand is that love is like salt in a dish. Tell me, for how long will we cherish the dish, just with the salt in it. The dish can’t turn out to be something we relish unless we add the flavoring condiments. And even the salt has to be according to our taste. No more, no less. The only time when we can fully savor it is when all of it is perfectly balanced according to our taste buds and again which is different for unique individuals.
Similarly, the only way you can wholly enjoy love is when you don’t leave behind other important things in life. Love is a wonderful and one of the celebrated experiences life offers. It is something everyone does and should go-ahead and experience. But like any other experience, it can be healthy or unhealthy. Don’t allow it to be something that defines our identities and life goals if it doesn’t support you. We cannot let it devour us and sacrifice our self-worth to it because that way we will lose ourselves.
I know all of it might be difficult to absorb for some people. But try to relate all of it with good relations and genuine people we have in our lives; most of us might feel the same. We will meet a wide variety of people in our lives and will have our first site love with them, although not necessarily as a girl or boyfriend. We will experience love in good and bad ways. We will experience love with authentic and bogus people. We will experience love as sweet, sour, and bitter. But all of it will make us realize that love can be unique; love can be special; love can be wonderful; love can hurt; love can drain, but love cannot be scarce.
Love You All!
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